I was just reading an article which stated that married people are no longer the majority for the adult lifestyle. The larger population

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is single people.  Some of these people are single because of broken marriages yet many in our society today prefer being single, enjoying this lifestyle’s freedom from commitment and family responsibilities.  Therefore, some may assume that a newly divorced person should feel the same.  The reality is that most divorcees do not feel single at all. They just feel not married any longer.

Family responsibilities have not been removed, and, in fact, they may even be greater. For example, chores done by two are now all done by one, finances covered by two must be covered by one,  children may rebel and need much more one-on-one time; homes may need to be sold; jobs may need to be changed or secured; and so on. The confusion and adjustments are mind-boggling. All these changes are exhausting and can be hurtful. For the recently divorced person, the “single” life is not a reality.

During this busy time of discovery, healing, and adjusting, one must find out who he or she is apart from the former spouse. The last advice you should want to heed is “just get on with your life.” (I realized for myself and for those I work with in divorce support groups that usually the newly divorced person does not even know how to define his or her role in life for at least three years.)

No matter what the circumstances that led to the separation or divorce, you must put them in the past. Nothing can change what is behind you. In order to heal, one must start addressing the future. Even though attacks from the “ex” may continue for years, or even forever, one must change to the point that these attacks no longer negatively penetrate.  One must be on a forward journey in which he/she  chooses to not look back—or strike back. There just isn’t any need for that wasted action.

If you want to be happy and whole, you must consciously work on your future. This includes enlisting such efforts as below:

Set some goals for yourself and your children.   Example:  Plan a trip that would reveal new territories for you all.  Go camping.  Prepare for some new memories.

Change your environment. You don’t have to move but you can paint a room or rearrange furniture in various rooms, for instance.  How about planting a garden?

Join some new clubs—Bible studies, health clubs, book clubs, golf classes, etc.

The most important action is to think future. Get excited about all the great things that God has planned for you.  Family dynamics can change and still be wonderful. Trust Him. God wants to bring “abundance to your family.”